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Those who can take the initiative to eat together,

Usually the relationship is more than just that table.

The essence of a good relationship is to enjoy and experience each other together. There is no more ordinary way to get along than eating together. I used to be in charge of the Alibaba * club brand, so I came into close contact with many invisible rich people and company owners. I may seem to live a lively life, but in fact I am fragile and lonely, and I don't even have anyone to eat with.

Colleagues are not allowed to eat together. I wanted to scold the boss together for fun, but found out that the biggest boss was me. Subordinates are not allowed to eat together. It is indispensable to discuss work with you hypocritically, and you will have indigestion. Parents can't eat together. Before their stomachs are full, their ears are full first. My wife can't eat together. The bowl is not big enough to cover her tired face. So who else can we eat with? You're right. Compared with familiar people, it is actually safer for people to communicate with strangers, because they can say anything when they are unfamiliar. Or, like small Japanese restaurants, give private small partitions to protect everyone's loneliness.

The essence of eating is to fill the stomach, and there is also a more powerful function, called eating loneliness. By the way, if you're so lonely, wouldn't you just organize a dinner party? In fact, it is not. The solution to loneliness lies in total trust. This kind of trust makes people willing to spend their time, a little bit of their life, giving it to each other.

My friend from medical school told me that it makes sense that so many people like to discuss business at the dinner table. It can cultivate a sense of trust, and this feeling can be accumulated. Where did this effect come from? To answer this question, just think about "Why do Chinese people have to go home for a meal no matter how far away they are during the New Year?" Few people know that eating together can make people secrete oxytocin!

A few days ago, I attended an interesting event and talked with several guests about the relationship between "cooking food" and "cooking life". It was a food and cultural restaurant full of "oxytocin". It lasted for 6 hours!

Let's first understand the secret of oxytocin: Paul. Paul Zak is a neuroeconomist (a very strange profession) who is committed to finding a way to measure morality and trust. At a TED conference, he presented his research results, which were contained in a small syringe spray containing a substance called oxytocin.

This can create a sense of trust, empathy, acceptance, and have a positive effect on building harmonious social relationships. It is said that the more economically developed the region, the higher the sense of mutual trust among people, resulting in more commercial businesses, more stable financial order, and more wealth. This is why, drinking a little wine makes it easier to feel beautiful and feel that "the guy in front looks too kind and pleasing to the eye. If you cooperate with him, the 1 million contract is too cheap!"

Therefore, directly speaking, make meals happen more frequently and lengthen the meal time. Eat more with partners, love and relatives, especially! The best way to lengthen the meal is to have a formal meal, preferably by making it yourself. The definition of "trustworthy" is quickly recognized by the other party's senses. This way, we spend longer together and keep oxytocin secreting for a long time!

The difference between men and women is actually quite big. I suggest you take a look at the real DNA of men and women. The difference is more than that of humans and monkeys. A rich woman told me that she had dinner with her nanny every day, and her communication with her husband was to discuss a month's family expenses, like a free accountant. Later, once, the nanny took temporary leave to go home. Her husband came home hungry at night, so she personally cooked a bowl of noodles. Rather than saying that her husband devoured it, she almost finished eating it in his eyes. Although he didn't even look at his wife while eating, probably because he was too hungry. After drinking the soup completely, her husband said, Can you cook me a bowl of noodles every day in the future? This sentence, she said, she heard dependence. Years later, she felt she had found her place and secreted dopamine again.

Before the arrival of winter, Midea's small household appliances combined with one-way space to do a beautiful experiment that was not so fast-food, allowing literature and food to live up to it. We taste literature and read delicious food in the Midea & One-Way Space Food and Culture Literature Restaurant. There is a beautiful saying,"The most important thing is not to get food, but to prepare carefully and enjoy yourself." It touched me.

The way we cook food is the way we cook time and life. Food presses the intestines, literature consolidates the soul, when we have warm food in our stomachs, when we have our favorite books at hand, the best times have already begun.

The core of home is the "most relaxing place". Primate families, such as gorillas, will choose to gather together. This is a great solution. It reduces cortisol, a substance that maintains cytoplasmic metabolism. Imbalanced cortisol secretion can cause obesity, acne, anxiety, insomnia, reduced sexual function and immunity, etc., which means that cortisol is one of the main culprits of these sub-health conditions. Getting enough sleep, exercising and relaxing meals with someone you like actually reduces cortisol. Chinese people actually don't know how to express their feelings. They need a special opportunity to sit together, face to face, and think that eating is the most appropriate thing. I vaguely remember the time when my parents taught me how to use chopsticks, handle bowls and table manners at the dining table when I was a child. The way you eat represents a family and the teachings of family rules. For example, once I was knocking on a bowl with chopsticks and was scolded by my father, and was praised for serving my grandma with food. When I grew up, I became a typical key children. In junior high school English textbooks, I often went out and went home by myself with a key. It seems to be very independent, but it is actually because my parents are very busy and have no time to care. I especially long to be able to eat with my family every day. My parents only knew that I had good academic grades, but they didn't know that I was in puppy love, let alone that I fell in love with rock music. Of course, I don't really know what hard work they have encountered at work or why they have more gray hair.

Modern people are anxious and busy, have no time to think about life, and even lack minimum emotional communication skills. The dining table is a good practice ground.

Family affection and love, trust and miss are all silently generated on it. So it is not difficult to understand that a wanderer would care so much about his mother's craftsmanship and the taste of home. The delicacies of any high-end restaurant cannot replace a meal in an unforgettable experience in life. My mother cooks very poorly. She has a steamed Koh Samui fish, which is particularly beautiful in autumn. She uses ginger slices, soy sauce and wine, puts a small load of lard, steams the pot through the water, and puts a little green onion. Because it's really easy, she can do it five times a week. I still think it's the best!

Not only family affection, of course there is love on the table. The thalamus is often compared to the "love center" of the brain because it secretes a variety of neurotransmitters related to emotions, the most widely recognized of which is dopamine, and is often known as the "arrow of Cupid."

"We like a person, and the process of 'liking' is already enjoyment. We are excited, happy, and eager to see it. It will be enough for him to treat me better." If we happen to have a lot of unfinished meals together, even if we end up not happily, can we at least recall that the aroma of wine and meat lingering in our fingers can dilute the original unhappiness and regret? You must all have your own love stories, some complete, some make people sigh. In all things and people are different, think about it, it seems that there must be a few meals in the impressive scenes. That's because you both secrete dopamine!

Of course, bad emotions can inhibit the process. Let me judge the closeness of a couple, I can know by watching them eat together. In "Eating Men and Women", Jianing asked the boys she liked to eat roadside stalls. It would be better if it was not Michelin. In "Madame Bovary", an indifferent couple eats chewy steak at the entrance of the dark corridor day after day. It is a kind of torture.

The description of a meal in a beautiful book should read like this:

"How many days later, Colonel Aureliano will stand in front of his study and will surely think of the distant afternoon when his father took him to visit the Food, Sex and Literature Restaurant..."

"The book I really like is this. When you finish eating it, you reminisce about your very good friends. You want to dial the past and call them when they are young..."

The experiment I have always wanted to do finally came true on October 26!

In the one-way space, in this pop-up shop of food and literature restaurant [Beautiful Life Small Appliances Combined One-way Space], which has only existed for 6 hours, through magical modern intelligent cooking methods, world classics such as "A Century of Solitude" and "The Catcher in the Rye" have become a series of literary feasts that can be tasted, with fragrant exotic chapters.

Bookstores are an excellent social destination, and delicious food is a passport to the whole world. The first appearance of the Food, Food and Culture Literature restaurant has become a check-in landmark for Hangzhou's literary diners. Here, we carefully read delicious food, and we feast on literature. What is the difference between the menu of a food and culture restaurant and an ordinary restaurant?

The Latin American flavor in "One Hundred Years of Solitude", the strong flavor of wheat that was most loved in his youth in "The Catcher in the Rye", and the flavor of the world in "The Story of Waves". Under the magic cooking of beautiful living appliances, my lips and teeth begin to remain fragrant.

Menu 1:"A Hundred Years of Solitude"

Celebrity chef: Garcia Marquez and Midea's frying machine

Dishes introduction: Fresh and spicy red peppers, emerald green peppers, bright yellow peppers and chicken in Mexican sauce, you can appreciate the enthusiasm and grandeur of Latin America in "One Hundred Years of Solitude" in your taste buds.

Menu No. 2:Catcher in the Rye

Celebrity chef: Jerome David Salinger & Midea's low-sugar rice cooker

Dishes introduction: In this quinoa rice ball, a rice ball wrapped in quinoa, glutinous rice, and fish roe is like a wind blowing from the wheat field, awakening the taste of youth and rebellion in the hippocampus.

Menu 3:"Lang Shi Ji"

Famous chef: Wang Kai and Midea's Wall Breaking Machine

Dishes introduction: Wang Kai (author) travels around in the world of food, mixing food and diners from different regions into his writing. Just like this salad bowl that gathers Mexican avocado, macadamia nuts, Greek yogurt, and Hangzhou osmanthus, you can also taste the various flavors of the world.

In addition to eating books, the one-way lite drink "Today's Ink" specially customized by the Food and Sex Literature Restaurant also allows everyone to use ink to add buff to visitors on the spot in addition to tasting delicious food.

The pure black drink made of grains brings a mellow texture, and the dense graininess warms the stomach in the cooling autumn. It is like timeless literature, giving dual comfort to people's body and soul.

Haizi said: "I want to be a loyal son from afar and a temporary lover of materials." ("Dream as a Horse")

Lu Xun said: "In the infinite distance, countless people are all related to me"("The Last Collection of Qiejieting Essays·This is also Life")

From the road to the writing paper, those foreigners in literature who set out for the distance have encountered delicious food and their souls have been healed. For example,"Kneel into the carved hu rice, and the moon shines brightly on the plain plate." Li Bai, who is so ashamed that I can't eat thanks for three times, is like Wang Kai and Sangge, who have eaten the world.

As two literary eaters with both wandering experience, they also shared the beautiful past with food and people in the world.

This dialogue can be said to have a vast territory, ranging from Kunming, Wuzhen, Shenzhen, Suzhou to Lisbon, Berlin, and Denmark, from "Strange Stories from a Liaozhai" to "Jin Ping Mei" to "Suiyuan Food List", from Michelin cuisine to pig's head meat, from sunny spring snow to ordinary fireworks, everything is included.

Wang Kai's style is free and contented, and her words are full of vicissitudes and intoxicating; Sangge is fresh and lively, and her story, like her words, makes people feel overjoyed and fragrant.

"Our era is particularly polarized. On the one hand, restaurants or chefs emerge in an endless stream, and all kinds of good dishes and good ingredients appear. Now is a very abundant era. But on the other hand, we ate so badly and badly." (Wang Kai)

Regarding the fetters of literature, food and people, they said: "From our perspective in China, our imagination of food comes entirely from literature. Food changes every hundred years, and we only know about food through literature. At a certain stage, food can only exist based on literature, and this cannot be avoided." (Wang Kai)

"The encounter between people and food is really a very accidental thing. It should not be standardized, regulated, or mastered by a few famous chefs. (Wang Kai)

"Food is too easy to get nowadays. Whether a thing tastes good or not is another matter. The process of how you get it determines the depth of your experience. If all the good things are lined up for you to eat, everything will be discounted." (Sangge)

Regarding how to establish a delicious relationship with food, they said: "If I eat too complex, I can't taste the original taste of the food and lose my appetite. When something is good enough to create a feeling of luxury, it connects with a sense of guilt." (Sangge)

"How do you make yourself eat better? Cherish every dish, try to eat less fast food, and try to cook a bowl of noodles yourself. It's even better than that." (Wang Kai)

"I completely don't believe all the recommendations made by all public Dianping websites. I must escape, escape beyond the control of that system, and find some food. Such food is the food that satisfies the individual and the body. What Chinese people value most is fireworks and the steaming heat of food. When I choose a restaurant, I will choose a small restaurant or a restaurant that is not in the system." (Wang Kai)

Regarding Literature Restaurant, they said: "What's particularly interesting about Literature Restaurant is that everything is accidental. I don't know what dishes the chef can cook now. There is one dish called" Langshiji ". In fact, I'm quite curious." (Wang Kai)

"This literary restaurant is very interesting. There is a term called "one period and one period" in Japanese tea ceremony, just like we were sitting here this afternoon, one period and one period. This pop-up restaurant may only exist for an afternoon, but it may continue to appear in other places in the future. But it moved to another time, another space, and it was different from our time and space. The most interesting thing about this restaurant is what it will look like when we meet everyone today." (Wang Kai)

Regarding smart life, they said: "I am more and more accepting of eating very average, so I am very happy that there are some machines and what kind of instruments can cook it well, and it can have a certain degree of discretion and a certain taste. It suits me completely." (Sangge)

All in all, beautiful utensils and the warmth of technology are like the concepts brought by beautiful living appliances. They are nothing more than used to allow us to get along with time calmly and entertain our lives with better literature and food. First of all, you must have time first to give life.

The goddess asked

What is your dish?

"Hugging is just a habit,

It's like having a monotonous dinner,

The monotonous snack you can guess."

---Flaubert

Food Bless You!

Consultant for China International Food Expo

Producer of "God's Table"